First premarital sex- this can be and uncomfortable topic or maybe for some it is more of a right of passage. As some young adults would put it, "no big deal". But how is it influencing our relationships?
Premarital sex has existing for a long time but in the the 1960-1970 there was a significant increase. !980's level tapper off. These numbers varied between different cultures and age groups. Premarital dominoed into a significant rise in the birth to unmarried women since in 1960's where approximately 1-4 births had at least one nonmartial birth to 2007 were 39% of all births were to unmarried mothers. This something I am keening interested in these trends because to the children growing up in single parent homes and the affects it has on those children. I grew up in a single parent home because my parents were divorced. I know how hard it for one parent to raise a family. My mother was an adult and had many challenges. I can't imagine what it is like for a teenage mother trying to support a child when she is a child herself. I believe that premarital sex devaluates people and puts emphasis on gratifying oneself instead of honoring someone you love and making a commitment to share that love and start a family where responsibilities are shared. Teaching our children to wait until marriage to be intimate and protect their virtue helps to ensure that their children will grow up with the support and care that only a two parent household can provide.
How are cohabitation VS marriage impacting our society? Many believe that cohabitation is the answer to decreases divorce rate. That living with someone and "trying" things out to see if your partnership is a good fit. No commitments, no big deal if things fall apart. However, they have been sadly mistaken as cohabitation doesn't lead to marriage and less cohabited couples are staying together.
It is like buying versus renting a car. Someone who rents a car often takes the attitude of not taking good care of the rented car because they just going to trade it on a brand new one in a few years. While someone who has invested in purchasing a car will see to it's maintenance and fix things that are broken so the car will run properly for a long time. Cohabitation doesn't require investment and there is no accountability to motivate them to keep the relationship running properly. Marriage is a promise between two people to love and grow together. To work on the things that break down and to keep trying to improve the relationship because of the commitment made that binds them together. There is power in that! I don't understand with something so important and that can potentially influence generations of people if children enter the couples relationship, why would anyone consider renting a relationship when making a commitment and promising to honor and sustain and love someone is such a worthily investment!
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